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Mom cuffed after leaving young kids alone in car at LaGuardia Airport for an hour during her job interview
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Police found a baby dead and infested with maggots at an Iowa home. His parents are now charged with murder.
Police found a baby dead and infested with maggots at an Iowa home. His parents are now charged with murder.
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Mother beat, strangled daughter for not knowing Bible verses
BY MINYVONNE BURKE
NEW YORK DAILY NEWS Friday, October 27, 2017, 2:02 PM
Mother beat, strangled daughter for not knowing Bible verses
BY MINYVONNE BURKE
NEW YORK DAILY NEWS Friday, October 27, 2017, 2:02 PM
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Idaho mother intentionally drove off cliff, killing herself and three kids
Idaho mother intentionally drove off cliff, killing herself and three kids
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Police say woman robs bank while 6-year-old waits in taxi
October 28, 2017, 6:01 PM
Police say woman robs bank while 6-year-old waits in taxi
October 28, 2017, 6:01 PM
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Mother admits to tying her 9-year-old son to roof of car
BY MINYVONNE BURKE
NEW YORK DAILY NEWS Wednesday, November 1, 2017, 9:54 AM
Mother admits to tying her 9-year-old son to roof of car
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NEW YORK DAILY NEWS Wednesday, November 1, 2017, 9:54 AM
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Funeral held for 3-year-old Texas girl who died when father ‘physically assisted’ her with drinking milk
BY BLAKE ALSUP
NEW YORK DAILY NEWS Wednesday, November 1, 2017, 2:02 PM
Funeral held for 3-year-old Texas girl who died when father ‘physically assisted’ her with drinking milk
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There's all kinds of reviews ... and all kinds of reviewers. But when a giant such as Charles de Lint takes notice of a work, that alone is a review. We are honored.
I can't imagine Oprah reading the Cross series, but in the 1990s she read a passage from Another Chance To Get It Right during an interview she was conducting with Vachss, and the book hasn't been out of print since then. She was, as were so many others, enthralled with this collection of original stories, poetry and allegory, combined with the gorgeous black & white art by Geof Darrow and others, all of it celebrating the potential of parenting.
The rights and protection of children is a theme than runs through most of Vachss's books, but this is as clear a mission statement as you're going to get from the author, filled with beauty and despair, sadness and hope. It should be required reading for every new parent. It should be required reading for anyone who cares about kids and cares for kids. Andrew deserves our thanks for writing this book.
This twenty-fifth anniversary edition features a new cover by Darrow and other new material but but the core thrust remains the same as when it was first published.
Highly recommended.
Source: Fantasy&ScienceFiction (forthcoming: March/April issue)
Books To Look For: Charles de Lint (pp. 70-71)
Another Chance To Get It Right: Fourth Edition by Andrew Vachss and Geof Darrow, Dark Horse Books, 2016, $14.99
There's all kinds of reviews ... and all kinds of reviewers. But when a giant such as Charles de Lint takes notice of a work, that alone is a review. We are honored.
I can't imagine Oprah reading the Cross series, but in the 1990s she read a passage from Another Chance To Get It Right during an interview she was conducting with Vachss, and the book hasn't been out of print since then. She was, as were so many others, enthralled with this collection of original stories, poetry and allegory, combined with the gorgeous black & white art by Geof Darrow and others, all of it celebrating the potential of parenting.
The rights and protection of children is a theme than runs through most of Vachss's books, but this is as clear a mission statement as you're going to get from the author, filled with beauty and despair, sadness and hope. It should be required reading for every new parent. It should be required reading for anyone who cares about kids and cares for kids. Andrew deserves our thanks for writing this book.
This twenty-fifth anniversary edition features a new cover by Darrow and other new material but but the core thrust remains the same as when it was first published.
Highly recommended.
Source: Fantasy&ScienceFiction (forthcoming: March/April issue)
Books To Look For: Charles de Lint (pp. 70-71)
Another Chance To Get It Right: Fourth Edition by Andrew Vachss and Geof Darrow, Dark Horse Books, 2016, $14.99
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Father accused of using hot dogs to reduce swelling on child he'd been abusing
BY CAITLYN HITT
NEW YORK DAILY NEWS Thursday, November 2, 2017, 12:40 PM
Father accused of using hot dogs to reduce swelling on child he'd been abusing
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College student admits killing newborn; faces 8 years
Friday, November 3, 2017, 12:02 PM
MINEOLA, N.Y. — A Long Island college student has admitted to smothering her newborn daughter and discarding the baby's body in a trash bag.
College student admits killing newborn; faces 8 years
Friday, November 3, 2017, 12:02 PM
MINEOLA, N.Y. — A Long Island college student has admitted to smothering her newborn daughter and discarding the baby's body in a trash bag.
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Woman who left her 2-year-old son in car overnight during snowstorm pleads guilty, faces up to 10 years
Nicole Carmon is set to be sentenced on Dec. 4 — her son suffered frostbite and hypothermia.
Woman who left her 2-year-old son in car overnight during snowstorm pleads guilty, faces up to 10 years
Nicole Carmon is set to be sentenced on Dec. 4 — her son suffered frostbite and hypothermia.
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A 3-year-old shot two toddlers in home day care. A Detroit area couple now faces charges.
Samantha Schmidt, The Washington Post Published 5:19 am, Friday, November 3, 2017
A 3-year-old shot two toddlers in home day care. A Detroit area couple now faces charges.
Samantha Schmidt, The Washington Post Published 5:19 am, Friday, November 3, 2017
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SEE IT: Woman records herself breaking into homes with two children by her side
BY DAVID BOROFF
NEW YORK DAILY NEWS Tuesday, November 7, 2017, 3:48 PM
SEE IT: Woman records herself breaking into homes with two children by her side
BY DAVID BOROFF
NEW YORK DAILY NEWS Tuesday, November 7, 2017, 3:48 PM
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Woman arrested after 3-year-old child slams head against windshield, cracking it during high-speed chase
BY MINYVONNE BURKE
NEW YORK DAILY NEWS Tuesday, November 7, 2017, 3:40 PM
Woman arrested after 3-year-old child slams head against windshield, cracking it during high-speed chase
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NEW YORK DAILY NEWS Tuesday, November 7, 2017, 3:40 PM
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Jury finds Maine mom guilty of manslaughter in infant son’s death
Jury finds Maine mom guilty of manslaughter in infant son’s death
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Illinois parents charged with murder for starving 6-year-old as punishment, police say
Illinois parents charged with murder for starving 6-year-old as punishment, police say
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Tuesday, November 7, 2017
Perfect Love in a Tiny Package
I’ve become a grandfather.
My granddaughter Vera is a month old. My wife and I are getting to know her by singing silly songs, carrying her around, and watching her rapid development at this very young moment.
Everyone who hears the news congratulates me in a different way than new parents are congratulated. The lives of new parents are forever transformed by new responsibilities. That’s long ago in my past. This time, experienced grandparents tell me how much fun I will have.
Connecting as a grandparent has been transformed by social changes over the past few decades. The increasing geographic mobility of American families means that many grandparents live too far away for regular visits. But even though we were over 1000 miles away when she was born, we could see Vera every day via a video chat. Keeping in contact with family across generations has never been easier.
Naturally new technology brings new dilemmas. Coming from a generation where party lines were still common and there was only one screen in a household, grandparents of my age are likely to disapprove of young children carrying video games and movies around in their pockets.
Social change creates the potential for generational conflict centered on grandchildren. Grandparents visit and then go away. We cuddle and sing songs and read books, but we don’t take on the heavy daily duty of parenting. We follow the parents’ lead, help rather than make big choices. We change diapers, but don’t decide whether cloth or paper. We feed, but don’t pick out what baby eats. We don’t decide how to decorate the nursery, whether or not to follow the traditional gendered color choices for clothing, or how much screen time will be allowed. After each visit, we go back to our own lives, eagerly anticipating the next visit.
One of the delights and pitfalls of grandparenting is highlighted in a how-to produced by the Guardian newspaper, called “10 ways to be a fabulous grandparent”. They advise: “stick to the parents’ rules when you’re looking after the children … mostly.” Experienced grandparents often say that “spoiling” the child is a great joy. The child soon learns that grandparents often have license to allow forbidden things, like sweets or later bedtimes. But differences in rules can bring conflicts with the parents. The Guardian advises grandparents: “Accept that you have no control: The hardest thing about parenting is being responsible for everything. And the hardest thing about grandparenting is accepting that you’re not.”
The real fun of grandparents is their difference, but that doesn’t have to include extra leniency. What I treasured about visiting my grandparents were the new card games they taught me, the exotic foods my grandmother prepared, the different conversations we had, the strange magazines lying around, the unfamiliar TV programs they watched.
Becoming a grandparent changes familial relationships. A child becomes a parent, assuming responsibilities and making decisions once reserved for the grandparent. Those decisions inevitably become comments, positive or negative, on the grandparent’s parenting. Some of these choices are socially determined by evolving conventions of good parenting. Fathers in the delivery room and breast-feeding are no long uncommon. Putting baby to sleep on her stomach under a blanket is now taboo. These shifts can appear to represent rejection of the grandparent’s child-rearing practices.
How one acts as a grandparent is not entirely a matter of choice. Not all grandparents can afford to view grandparenting as a series of fun visits. About 1 in 10 grandparents in the US live with their grandchildren. About 6% of children under 18 live with their grandparents and that percentage is dependent on race: 12% of African-American children live in grandparent-headed households, but only 4% of white children.
Historical social shifts have changed the relationships among generations. Rising divorce rates and increasing numbers of families where both parents work encourage more regular grandparental care for children. Economics play a key role. The recent depression increased by 20% the number of children mainly cared for by their grandparents.
Of the 20 million pre-schoolers in the US, about a quarter were cared for regularly by their grandparents, about a third of children under 2. Typically grandparents provide care when mothers are employed full-time, and are more likely to jump in as caregivers for single mothers in poverty.
Even when parents are capable of taking care of children by themselves, grandparents are invaluable. A friend told me that parenting is a humbling experience, placing young adults before difficult decisions: should I feed now or later? should I let the baby cry itself to sleep? which bit of contradictory advice from books, friends and internet should I listen to? Grandparents don’t have all the answers, but we can bring extra hands, patience and skill to the most important human task – bringing up baby.
Vera doesn’t care about conflicts between parents and grandparents over who makes the rules. She doesn’t care about rules. Right now she single-mindedly seeks warmth and love and a dry diaper. I can provide those.
That’s the best thing grandparents can do.
Steve Hochstadt
Missoula, Montana
Published in the Jacksonville Journal-Courier, November 7, 2017
Tuesday, November 7, 2017
Perfect Love in a Tiny Package
I’ve become a grandfather.
My granddaughter Vera is a month old. My wife and I are getting to know her by singing silly songs, carrying her around, and watching her rapid development at this very young moment.
Everyone who hears the news congratulates me in a different way than new parents are congratulated. The lives of new parents are forever transformed by new responsibilities. That’s long ago in my past. This time, experienced grandparents tell me how much fun I will have.
Connecting as a grandparent has been transformed by social changes over the past few decades. The increasing geographic mobility of American families means that many grandparents live too far away for regular visits. But even though we were over 1000 miles away when she was born, we could see Vera every day via a video chat. Keeping in contact with family across generations has never been easier.
Naturally new technology brings new dilemmas. Coming from a generation where party lines were still common and there was only one screen in a household, grandparents of my age are likely to disapprove of young children carrying video games and movies around in their pockets.
Social change creates the potential for generational conflict centered on grandchildren. Grandparents visit and then go away. We cuddle and sing songs and read books, but we don’t take on the heavy daily duty of parenting. We follow the parents’ lead, help rather than make big choices. We change diapers, but don’t decide whether cloth or paper. We feed, but don’t pick out what baby eats. We don’t decide how to decorate the nursery, whether or not to follow the traditional gendered color choices for clothing, or how much screen time will be allowed. After each visit, we go back to our own lives, eagerly anticipating the next visit.
One of the delights and pitfalls of grandparenting is highlighted in a how-to produced by the Guardian newspaper, called “10 ways to be a fabulous grandparent”. They advise: “stick to the parents’ rules when you’re looking after the children … mostly.” Experienced grandparents often say that “spoiling” the child is a great joy. The child soon learns that grandparents often have license to allow forbidden things, like sweets or later bedtimes. But differences in rules can bring conflicts with the parents. The Guardian advises grandparents: “Accept that you have no control: The hardest thing about parenting is being responsible for everything. And the hardest thing about grandparenting is accepting that you’re not.”
The real fun of grandparents is their difference, but that doesn’t have to include extra leniency. What I treasured about visiting my grandparents were the new card games they taught me, the exotic foods my grandmother prepared, the different conversations we had, the strange magazines lying around, the unfamiliar TV programs they watched.
Becoming a grandparent changes familial relationships. A child becomes a parent, assuming responsibilities and making decisions once reserved for the grandparent. Those decisions inevitably become comments, positive or negative, on the grandparent’s parenting. Some of these choices are socially determined by evolving conventions of good parenting. Fathers in the delivery room and breast-feeding are no long uncommon. Putting baby to sleep on her stomach under a blanket is now taboo. These shifts can appear to represent rejection of the grandparent’s child-rearing practices.
How one acts as a grandparent is not entirely a matter of choice. Not all grandparents can afford to view grandparenting as a series of fun visits. About 1 in 10 grandparents in the US live with their grandchildren. About 6% of children under 18 live with their grandparents and that percentage is dependent on race: 12% of African-American children live in grandparent-headed households, but only 4% of white children.
Historical social shifts have changed the relationships among generations. Rising divorce rates and increasing numbers of families where both parents work encourage more regular grandparental care for children. Economics play a key role. The recent depression increased by 20% the number of children mainly cared for by their grandparents.
Of the 20 million pre-schoolers in the US, about a quarter were cared for regularly by their grandparents, about a third of children under 2. Typically grandparents provide care when mothers are employed full-time, and are more likely to jump in as caregivers for single mothers in poverty.
Even when parents are capable of taking care of children by themselves, grandparents are invaluable. A friend told me that parenting is a humbling experience, placing young adults before difficult decisions: should I feed now or later? should I let the baby cry itself to sleep? which bit of contradictory advice from books, friends and internet should I listen to? Grandparents don’t have all the answers, but we can bring extra hands, patience and skill to the most important human task – bringing up baby.
Vera doesn’t care about conflicts between parents and grandparents over who makes the rules. She doesn’t care about rules. Right now she single-mindedly seeks warmth and love and a dry diaper. I can provide those.
That’s the best thing grandparents can do.
Steve Hochstadt
Missoula, Montana
Published in the Jacksonville Journal-Courier, November 7, 2017
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Daughter of polygamist cult leader Warren Jeffs recalls sexual abuse that started when she was eight
BY DAVID BOROFF
NEW YORK DAILY NEWS Friday, November 10, 2017, 12:24 PM
Daughter of polygamist cult leader Warren Jeffs recalls sexual abuse that started when she was eight
BY DAVID BOROFF
NEW YORK DAILY NEWS Friday, November 10, 2017, 12:24 PM
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Florida couple arrested for neglecting to treat daughter's 17 rotting teeth
BY CAITLYN HITT
NEW YORK DAILY NEWS Friday, November 10, 2017, 3:38 PM
Florida couple arrested for neglecting to treat daughter's 17 rotting teeth
BY CAITLYN HITT
NEW YORK DAILY NEWS Friday, November 10, 2017, 3:38 PM
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What kind of test should you have to take before being allowed to have children?
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Man charged after 3-year-old shoots, kills 1-year-old sister
Sunday, November 12, 2017, 11:07 AM
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Man charged after 3-year-old shoots, kills 1-year-old sister
Sunday, November 12, 2017, 11:07 AM
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Army medic charged with raping, killing 9-month-old daughter
BY MEGAN CERULLO
NEW YORK DAILY NEWS Updated: Friday, November 17, 2017, 12:14 PM
Army medic charged with raping, killing 9-month-old daughter
BY MEGAN CERULLO
NEW YORK DAILY NEWS Updated: Friday, November 17, 2017, 12:14 PM
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In his autobiography, former President Bill Clinton credits [Andrew] Vachss with [writing the National Child Protection Act] and notes how important it was to him and wife Hillary. But there's a catch, according to Vachss: 'It's never been funded.'
July 14, 2005, in Ohio's ThisWeek
In his autobiography, former President Bill Clinton credits [Andrew] Vachss with [writing the National Child Protection Act] and notes how important it was to him and wife Hillary. But there's a catch, according to Vachss: 'It's never been funded.'
July 14, 2005, in Ohio's ThisWeek
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Spanking linked to increase in children's behavior problems
Date:
November 16, 2017
Source:
Association for Psychological Science
Summary:
Children who have been spanked by their parents by age 5 show an increase in behavior problems at age 6 and age 8 relative to children who have never been spanked, according to new findings. The study, which uses a statistical technique to approximate random assignment, indicates that this increase in behavior problems cannot be attributed to various characteristics of the child, the parents, or the home environment - rather, it seems to be the specific result of spanking.
Spanking linked to increase in children's behavior problems
Date:
November 16, 2017
Source:
Association for Psychological Science
Summary:
Children who have been spanked by their parents by age 5 show an increase in behavior problems at age 6 and age 8 relative to children who have never been spanked, according to new findings. The study, which uses a statistical technique to approximate random assignment, indicates that this increase in behavior problems cannot be attributed to various characteristics of the child, the parents, or the home environment - rather, it seems to be the specific result of spanking.
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Mother sentenced to three years for failing to take dying son to doctors for strep throat
BY MINYVONNE BURKE
NEW YORK DAILY NEWS Monday, November 20, 2017, 3:44 PM
Mother sentenced to three years for failing to take dying son to doctors for strep throat
BY MINYVONNE BURKE
NEW YORK DAILY NEWS Monday, November 20, 2017, 3:44 PM
