A simple hypothetical can often be answered by a careful examination. The situation was fairly simple:BruceRGilbert wrote: ↑December 11th, 2017, 12:57 am Rather than foster disagreement - some guidelines are in order:
1.) Hypothetical Constructs such as those posed by the OP in the form of "What would you do . . . ," cannot be answered because they are "imaginary" and not real. The conditions and boundaries of such "constructs" are fluidic and lie outside the bounds of reality. The "variables" are endless as opposed to those constraints that exist in real life.
If you have someone you love who is gay (I do)
Who was married to their same sex partner (they are)
If they came to stay at your house would you let them sleep together as a married couple in your home or as them to have separate rooms?
Simple question to me, I have no children, but I have people I love in that situation, I would not allow people to sleep together in my house if they were not married by what my religious beliefs are. It doesn't mean I love them less, it doesn't mean I think poorly of them, it doesn't justify any bad behavior or feelings toward them, but I have the right and the will to have the rules in my house apply as I desire. That's why it's my house.
If they're your children, I would hope you have a familiarity with them.2.) Relationships and personalities are "unknowable" without familiarity. This has much to do with directing our decisions and interactions with others.
It is a reasonable discussion to have so people may be exposed to differing opinions to examine when they find a possibility of a new situation which may place them in a difficult spot. It's kind of like a spiritual example of how I ride my motorcycle: I ride a block ahead of where I am in my mind so I can imagine scenarios I may have to adjust for in a split second in order to avoid an accident. If I think about problems before they occur and plan for them, I am better prepared to deal with a situation if it happens.3.) Does it matter? If it does, then "Why?" What is the point in asking the question?
Identification of situations we may find ourselves in. It is also prudent to use that judgement to prepare ourselves to ready actions we may need to take at some point.4.) Judgment is meant for "identification" and not condemnation.
And judgement may be used for condemnation, if it is done in righteousness. I condemn the use of alcohol, porn, or drugs in my house. I condemn sexual impropriety in my house. I don't condemn the people who do it, but I can condemn their actions. In my home I have the right to refuse my home to be used for those things. I wouldn't presume to tell others what they may do in their own homes (or in many other places for that matter) but if I believe it prudent I may testify about things I believe in. However, in my own home most people are welcome ( as imperfect as I am there are a few people I still refuse into my life, but I may work on that in the future) but some actions are prohibited.