I agree with the first part, but I have to disagree with this one. Some people ARE born that way, it's kind of like their own cross to bear. I have a friend I worked with who is/was gay. A girl we worked with grew up with him and said he was always a little girly boy, it never bothered either of them because she was a real tomboy (but she liked guys.) He was never molested, grew up in a strong LDS household, taught the gospel all his life, but was always confused by his desire to be gay with another man. To his credit, he never did (more than I can say) and he eventually married a girl who was the same as him but lesbian (celibate with desires.) They became friends, married, have several children, but both have still said they occasionally feel the pangs they've always had. They take great strength from one another. They're kind of a weird couple to me, because he's über goofy looking and she's a 9.5 hottie, but they're a real inspiration to me.MormonPatriot wrote:Now even some in the church claim that people are born that way....BULLOCKS
A friend I grew p with never understood how I could have a crush on just about every girl in our Stake growing up, and several in nearby Stakes at the same time. I never understood his lackadaisical attitude about girls. I liked them all, I wanted them all. He's married, very happily, one wife, one love, no affairs, no temptations to cheat, no desire. I went the other way: If it moved I tried to jump it. I learned along the way to my horror what I was doing, but the desire is still there. I was born how I was, he was born how he was.
Nature AND nurture can both contribute. How we deal with our strengths and weaknesses will be how we're judged.