So, it appears you believe in keeping marriage covenants to love your spouse for a little while & suffering abuse & adultery for maybe 10 years or so until the woman can't take it anymore & then divorcing. I don't understand why a woman would do that or where the Church teaches that. I don't believe God would ever ask, or have his leaders ask, a woman to suffer such things ever & especially not for nothing, for most who do these kinds of things never change in this life, they almost always just get worse & worse.JulesGP wrote: I don't believe God would ask women to stay with a wicked man for 5 seconds if you or God can't for sure save him. (Now the last two paragraphs again seem to contradict your statements before about staying in a marriage no matter what, so I still don't understand your argument.)
I believe God wants women to protect themselves & stand up to abuse or adultery on the very 1st offense. The Church teaches 'zero tolerance' for any form of abuse or adultery.
My belief again is that God would never ask women to stay & endure any abuse or adultery in any form or degree for even 10 minutes let alone 10 years, IF there is a way to safety, & especially IF the wife & God can't save him in the end, as you believe they can't.
And yes, I believe there is some form of abuse or adultery going on in 80+% of the marriages in the Church, but most women & men are in denial about it & ignoring it & don't seem to have the self worth & self respect to stand up to it & not tolerate it.
Can I ask why you don't believe in or want Unconditional True Love for & from a man? (And that does not mean having to endure any abuse or adultery from him.)
I don't want you to be hard on yourself for enduring abuse & adultery, the main reason you probably had to endure such was because in our world today, most leaders, civil & religious, don't understand abuse & adultery like they should & don't protect women & children from it as they should & could & is their #1 duty to do so.