Or you could just not care about the world or worldly aspects of getting married. You know those vain and foolish traditions of our fathers.brianj wrote:I don't think this approach will work. Keep the sealing private and you will upset the temple worthy relatives who think they have a right to be present. And I totally understand that position. It is hurtful to parents who are not church members to be denied access to their child's marriage over something they don't understand, and it would be just as hurtful to the parents who do have temple recommends to be denied access to their child's sealing when they know that the sealing is the real marriage and a subsequent ceremony is just theater.gkearney wrote:The method I propose is that the couple says nothing to anyone about the temple sealing. It is something they do in private. They then go a have a standard wedding for the whole family.
If I were getting married and I had the money, I would absolutely insist on being married in New Zealand. Take an overnight or weekend trip to Ottawa or Calgary (staying in separate hotel rooms, of course), go to the New Zealand embassy or consulate, acquire your marriage license, then fly with both families to Auckland and make everybody happy with a public marriage and a subsequent sealing. And, as an added bonus, if you charter say 20 or more seats between a US gateway and Auckland an airline would probably give you a pair of upgraded seats for the newlywed couple. Of course, buying a bunch of seats and hotel rooms, probably also having a few guests expect you to cover the cost of their rental car, passports, and food, is cost prohibitive to probably 90% of the population or more. And then, if you are from a big church family or marrying into one, then you'll have another 200 people who are upset you didn't also fly them out.
Under the current policy, no matter what you choose you just plain lose unless every invited guest has a temple recommend.
A marriage is between a man and woman not for the world and everyone in it.
People call it a shotgun wedding. And I could care less what they call it Or feel about it. A wedding Is not for them. Its to commit to someone's significant other.
If that couple decided to share that with others. Others should be glad about it. If they don't. Tuff. Waaaah. Want me to call you the wambulance. Or do you need some tryactin? Tryactin like a man?
It's ridiculous to live your life in fear of what others think.